I’ve had a couple guys ask me for advice about first dates. I’ve blogged bout those before, but here’s a quick checklist of things guys can do to make the first date rockin.
- Pay. Even if she offers. Really, even if she asked you out. You pay.
- Be a little creative. For example, dinner is a common first date. You do dinner and Applebees, you’ve done something with her she’s done a zillion times before. You want to do dinner, fine. Good choice. You can sit and talk. But ask her beforehand what her favorite food is. Then find a restaurant that is known for that type of food.
- Layer the date. By that I mean have a couple of options as it goes on. For example, I just mentioned dinner. Maybe after dinner you have a place picked out where you can go for a nice walk and talk some more. Then maybe after that you have in mind fun bar or an ice cream shop you can go and grab a late night drink or dessert. If things go horrible during dinner, you can end it. If they are going well, you move to the next layer.
- Look good. Jeans, concert t-shirt, flip flops = NO. Jeans, collared dress shirt that is crisp and ironed, deck shoes or canvas casuals, nice watch, hair styled = YES. Make it look like going out with her was something special. You make yourself look good when you are doing something special.
- Be prepared for convo. It’s not stalkerish to check out her Facebook. It’s fucking Facebook. If you think it’s weird for me to check out info that you have made public, then you are a complete and total idiot with no grasp of logic, and let’s end the date right this second. Cause I don’t want my future kids to be that dumb. If you put it on Facebook, people WILL check it out. So do it! Then you have some talking points ready to go. “So I saw on your profile that you’re studying nursing. What made you decide to go into that?” Along those lines…
- Talk about her. It’s most women’s favorite topic - herself. She’s interested in you and your hobbies and your job. But she also wants to talk about herself. Ask her lots of questions. When she answers, listen carefully, and then ask her a question based off her answer. Want to make her wet? Listen to her. OMG, that turns women on! When you talk about yourself, guys, be wise. She probably doesn’t want to know how much you enjoy Call of Duty. She doesn’t care about how much you bench press. She wants to know you are responsible and have some ambitions in life.
- If you like her, stop on first. Don’t expect anything physical except maybe a nice kiss goodnight. But if things are going well and heat up, and you find yourself in a make-out situation, stop on first. There’s a 70% chance that’s where she wants to stop on the first date. For the 30% of women who would want to go further, you will still impress them by showing restraint. You will leave them wanting more. I’ve told guy friends before, “You want to get your world rocked on the fourth date? Then don’t do much on the first.”
- If you want to see her again, communicate with her the next day. No, it doesn’t have to be a phone call. You could text her, “I had a fantastic time with you last night. Hope you feel the same. Will call soon to see if we can do this again.” At least then she knows she is on your mind and you are interested. If we could all agree to do this, we could save a LOT of headache! If a guy communicates with you the next day, you know he wants to date again. If he doesn’t communicate, he doesn’t want a 2nd date. Simple. But because guys are inconsistent, women are confused. Guys, it’s simple. It doesn’t have to be a long, sappy phone convo. A quick call or text.
So, hope this helps some. Do these things, guys, and you will get a reputation… a good one. You’ll have girls making it very clear they’d be happy to date you. Because you’ll then be a man women love.
Happy dating!
Daniel
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